Check out Dan Shaw’s description from his book Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation, or his video, or his interview with Rachel Bernstein on Indoctrination, part 1 and part 2 if you want more specific details on Traumatizing Narcissism and how they add their special flair to abuse.
Of course these days I have audio, video and online. So much to know, so little time.
I know this is a lot of info. RJ always publicly shamed me, and others, for being an intellectual. As if thinking was something to be ashamed of, but now I know it is because if you actually thought too much you might see his façade. He has no education past high school. RJ doesn’t like people who he thinks are smarter than he is, he must always remain the alpha.
Now that I have been cut loose I am an unabashed bibliophile. It makes my skin tingle when I think of all the things there are to learn in this world. Letting go of that criticism and my need to hide my curiosity is one of many boulders I’m grateful to have put down. This is from Psychology Today and a good place to start to recognize a traumatizing narcissist.
- Has a grandiose sense of self-importance and exaggerates achievements and talents.
- Dreams of unlimited power, success, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
- Believes he or she is special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions.
- Requires excessive admiration.
- Unreasonably expects special, favorable treatment or compliance with his or her wishes.
- Exploits and takes advantage of others to achieve personal ends.
- Lacks empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
- Envies others or believes they’re envious of him or her.
- Has arrogant behaviors or attitudes.
Thanks for reading!
Christine
